Finding your Own Way

Assume that everything that anybody has ever told you about how to do the thing you most want to do in this life is a lie. And not necessarily because they want to trick you or mislead you or keep all the good stuff to themselves (although that might be true) its more because your way of getting there is the only way of getting there - you can't do the thing that you want to do more than anything else in the world, somebody else way. You just can't. This part of the adventure is an inside job, you're on your own. You gotta find out for yourself

As you read these words, you may feel a familiar tightness wrapping its long sinewy fingers around your heart. Do you? That is the part of you that wants you to stay small, stay safe, be "normal". Kindly ask it to sit the fuck down. I am sorry to be rude, but this is your one shimmering, miraculous, raw, adventure of a life we are talking about here, we do not have time for normal anymore. 

Maybe you are thinking of all the precious time and money you have spent looking for directions to this pulsing destination that has been pulling you quietly like a rare earth magnet under the soil since you were 10.  How can all that be a waste of time?

It's wasn't. It shaped you. And if you look closely, you'll see how you coming into contact with other people's way, played a vital role in strengthening your ability to recognize, and follow your way - hmm nope not this, or oh yes more of that etc.,

You are the only one who knows the precise way the inner workings of your mind spiral to and fro when you are tired and how they jump and dance after you've eaten watermelon. Only you know your turquoise depth and the silky sunlight contours of your desires, whether they are yellow or made of sand.

Only you. 

How that fragmented fuzzy blue feather dream, the one you only remember the end of, lives in your liver and elbow, ready to go at a moments notice. The way you know 'yes' to carrots and 'absolutely not' to ostrichs. All of this your private living treasure, the living, breathing map and combination lock to your destiny.

The thrumming, alluring just out of focus secret destiny that won't leave you alone no matter how big you build your sandcastles in the summertime.

And all this can only ever be known by you.

The advice you've received was necessarily bad or incorrect, it just couldn't possibly contain the way that chipped swarovski prism hanging from that dusty thick red thread in your mothers kitchen window, made a rainbow that hit your left eye just so at breakfast that day in grade 3, changing everything. 

You could park yourself on the threadbare orange velvet cushion at the little public library near your house and listen to them read you ever single fairytale old and new from the catalog and still not hear your story, other peoples stories of how they found their dreams, yes. But not yours. Yours are inside. 

This is why what is true for one person can be so absurdly meaningless for another. 

So often, those who have achieved great success have done so by first going inside, then emerging only to go against the grain, break the rules, and forge their own path. They have trusted their instincts, listened to their intuition, and followed their own unique journey to success.

The journey to achieving your dreams is an inside job. It requires a deep level of self-awareness, a willingness to listen to your own inner voice, and a commitment to trusting your own instincts. It means taking the time to reflect on your goals, your passions, and your strengths, and using that knowledge to guide your actions and decisions.

It can be scary to trust yourself when there are so many other voices clamouring for your attention. It can be intimidating to forge your own path when there are so many established routes to success. It can be discouraging to face setbacks and failures along the way, and it can be downright terrifying to stand at the abyss of utter uncertainty and surrender to that soft quiet voice inside. 

But here's the thing: every successful person has faced those same fears and challenges. They have all had to trust themselves and take risks in order to achieve their goals. And while there is no guarantee of success, there is one thing that is certain: if you don't trust yourself and take action, you will never know what you are capable of.

It's time to stop listening to the advice of others and start listening to yourself. Trust your instincts and take action, even if it feels scary or uncertain. And most importantly, stop giving your power away. You are the leader, the authority, the expert you have been waiting for. Be brave. Look inside. Trust what you find there. Let yourself show you the way. 



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